Life's Seasons Speaks

Nothing Left to Lose

August 24, 2022 Tina Episode 75
Life's Seasons Speaks
Nothing Left to Lose
Show Notes Transcript

Nothing Left to Lose

"I’ve got nothing left to lose".  Have you ever uttered those words?  Or did you not dare say them out loud?  Afraid something in creation would hear your secret and confirm it.

Maybe this is where you are right now.  And you’re even a bit shook that someone just spoke out into the air, the heaviness your heart has been trying to hide.

Today, we take these words and shift them into a place to catapult from.  We turn the phrase "nothing left to lose" into a powerful place to find ourselves in.

How?  Listen and find out.  If you're feeling like you have nothing left to lose, you can't afford to miss this episode.  

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I’ve got nothing left to lose.  Have you ever uttered those words?  Or did you not dare say them out loud?  Afraid something in creation would hear your secret and confirm it.

Maybe this is where you are right now.  And you’re even a bit shook that someone just spoke out into the air, the heaviness your heart has been trying to hide.

Nothing.  You feel nothing left to save.  Nothing left to give.  Nothing left to offer.  Nothing left to lose.

You feel like the world has taken, taken, taken from you and now, here in this place where you are…    You have nothing left to lose.

And you haven’t told many people this.  It feels embarrassing, shameful, like weakness with a spotlight.  You don’t want pity and can’t see help, so you been hide it.

Or maybe you have shared your dark secret, that you feel you have nothing left to lose – and it either fell on deaf ears, or the endless, senseless advice started to flow.

Try harder, they said.  But you thought, why?  I have nothing left to lose.

Look at your kids, they said. Do it for them.  But you think they don’t need you anymore.  You have nothing left to lose.

Your partner, they reminded you.  But you believe they’d be fine without you.  You have nothing left to lose.

But your career, they contend.  But you’re convinced that you’re replaceable for sure.  You have nothing left to lose.

You have to find something, they plead.  But why?  All you feel is that you have nothing left to lose.

Can I ask you a question, please?  I don’t have advice.  I don’t have the answer to change everything.  It’s just a question?  I’m not even arguing with you about your thought that you have nothing left to lose.  

And I’m not arguing because I have had the same thoughts.  I have sat in these same feelings.  I never sit to record offering you myself as the standard in which to aim for.  I sit transparent and vulnerable at a mic and record what I can relate to.

And I’ve had the moments of believing that I have nothing left to lose.

But I’ve also become really entrenched in the language I use.  I’ve become really aware that language is powerful and as I was thinking about this thought, “nothing left to lose”, the feeling of it and the weight it brings, I thought about it as the words it’s made up of.  And I see it is often a reply starting with a question.  The question, WHY?

For all the reasoning people can throw at us to try and talk us out of the belief that we have nothing left to lose, we answer, WHY?

We ask why bother, why care, why try, why be concerned with your reasoning??? Because in the end, I still feel like I have nothing left to lose.  It’s all I see when I look at myself and my life.

WHY?  Why look at one more reason you’re going to spit out at me to try and change my mind.

So, if you’re feeling this way today, I’m not going to throw a reason at you to try and find a reason to see meaning.

I’m not going to argue with you as to WHY you should give it another chance.

I want to change the language in the question, just a little bit.

Before you can say to me, “WHY, I have nothing left to lose”, I want to ask you,

“Since you have nothing left to lose, WHY NOT?”

I feel a shift in the atmosphere when we ask that question don’t you?  I feel a shift in my mind, my spirit and my whole body.

I feel like I take my power back from something invisible when I change the wording of that question.

Feel that difference?  When I say “why, I have nothing left to lose” feels like defeat has already claimed destiny over my life and all my circumstances.

But when I say, “Why not, I have nothing left to lose… or go further and just switch the order of that and say, “I have nothing left to lose, so why not?”

Yes, that is a power move that had defeat standing on the sidelines, trembling, losing confidence as you go from your knees to your feet and turn to look it in the eye”.

Listen to this.  Saying “I have nothing to lose”, by definition means that I will not suffer if my action is unsuccessful

I will not lose if my action is unsuccessful.  That doesn’t have me asking, why bother?  That has me asking, WHY NOT?

A place of having nothing left to lose then is not the least powerful you have ever been.  With a shift in language, phrasing, mindset, and attitude… this can be the most powerful place you will ever find yourself in.

If you feel like you have nothing left to lose, then WHY NOT GO ALL IN?

This is a place of no return.  This is a very powerful place to be in but the power lies in you.  It is within your power to choose your language, your phrasing, your mindset, and your attitude.

So, what’s it going to be?

Are you going to ask, WHY?  Or are you going to ask WHY NOT?

This is your power move.

This is the place where you can go all in.  

And if you stand in this moment saying it’s too risky to go all in, then guess what… that means you did have something to lose, and you aren’t prepared to lose it.

That’s powerful in itself, isn’t it?

But my marriage is a mess, I’ve lost my best friend, my kids are grown and don’t bother with me, my job is going nowhere… I feel like I have nothing left to lose.

Then go all in.  What is there left to lose???

Go for the new job, call your kid, and ask them to lunch, reach out to your friend and apologize, make new friends, walk away from the marriage, and start new, or give it another try with everything that is in you.  

No, no, no.  I can’t.  What if I try things and they don’t work?

Well then, you won’t have been unsuccessful.  You’ll just be in the same place as where you started.

Yes but… I’ll be crushed.  I’ll be hurt.  I feel terrible.

So, you’re telling me you do have something to lose then.

It wasn’t true that you have nothing left to lose.

No, I’m not calling you a liar.  I’m not pointing out where you were wrong.

I’m merely pointing this out.

When you feel like you have nothing left to lose… you still have you.

And you are everything.  When it seems like there is nothing left in your life that you could lose, you still have everything.  You.

And you, will always be worth going ALL IN for.  You deserve that.

This is where you can say I may as well apply for school, apply for that new job, reach out to that person, write the book, take the trip, buy the shoes.  I may as well try.  Cause why not?  I’ve got nothing left to lose, but me.

And when I see that I am worth trying for, I get creative.  

There is something about having nothing left to lose but yourself that has you showing up a little differently.

There is something about having nothing left to lose that gets you thinking that you got something to bet on, to go all in for.

And when that spark catches you ended up squaring off and telling defeat “You messed around and got me knowing that I can fight this.  I can fight you.  You tried to take me out the game, but you got me believing now that I can survive this, and I can take you out the game.  You got me believing that I can do this.  I might not look like I have much to lose but I’ve got me, and I am everything.  And I ain’t going nowhere.’

This might feel like the fight of your life.  But I’m here to tell you today that this fight is the fight for your life.  So fight baby.  If that’s what it takes.  If you are squaring off with defeat right now, know that I am jumping in the ring with you… because you are worth fighting for.

Ask me why we fight?  Go on.  

You have to remember here… we aren’t asking why bother fighting for you?  After all you have nothing to lose.

Remember to shift that.  We are asking, WHY NOT?  Why not go all in and fight like we have never fought before.  Because, you have nothing left to lose… but you.  And you are the opposite of nothing left to lose.

YOU ARE EVERYTHING.

So, knock defeat out.

Fight baby, fight.